People Magazine in a recent issue named Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson as the sexiest man alive. The word “sexiest” can be interpreted as the pinnacle of masculinity as defined by popular media. Although a bit silly to somehow grant this status to one man out of billions on our planet it is instructive to the exploration of masculinity to look at the criteria used by the magazine writers. Reading through their article to pick out the attributes the writers considered in making their choice and to what men should strive for to be a perfect man the most obvious is physical presence. It helps to be a 6 ‘ 5″ 245 pound ex-wrestler and football player with proportionate facial features. Several but not overwhelming tattoos, bulging biceps and good teeth also add to attractiveness. The non physical attributes cited by the authors in the article are even more instructive as to what is valued in their conception of the sexiest man.
The writers highlight the fact that he is the father of two girls. One with his ex-wife, with whom he maintains a business relationship, and another with his current live in girlfriend. He admits to a somewhat troubled childhood without providing much detail other that having been arrested numerous times. However there are several mentions of personal redemption. He reveals that he has learned from his mistakes and that, in his own words, “I’ve learned that when you love, you’ve got to love powerfully.” He admits to getting teary eyed when listening to song lyrics and when asked about treating women he said that he always compliments women on little details about her hair or something about her eyes.
Absent from The Rock’s profile is any mention of anything remotely intellectual. No detail about books he might have read or be reading or social or political philosophy other than he loves his country. We have no idea if he has any formal education, yet he admits that he thinks he would like to be president.
What can we take away from this cover story of a magazine with a print circulation of 3.4 million? On one hand it could be considered just a bit of fluff not to be taken seriously. However, there is a clear message to men that cannot be ignored. For a man to be sexy, desirable and attractive he should embody certain qualities. Starting with appearance. A man should be fit, muscular, have a few tattoos and have a bit of an exotic look – Johnson has shaved head, is half Samoan and half African-American. A man must be physical but only in controlled environments like wrestling, football and playing the role of warrior in the movies. Sensitivity is a must. Be able to talk about love and show that you can be sentimental and cry. As far as treating women – validate their appearance and when a relationship fails make sure to learn from it and reconcile with your former partner. Be a Dad and tell everyone how important that is without too much detail about your contribution to fathering. Lastly, avoid intellectual discourse while still copping to lofty social goals as embracing love and wanting to be president.
Guys we now have the formula for being considered by People Magazine to be the sexiest man alive. Good luck on your journey to be in the running for this illustrious title.