The answer to gender equality is simple according to Dr. Kimberly Probolus the inspiration for the “Women’s Project.” According to her we just have to teach men to listen to women. In a newspaper article in the New York Times she admonishes all men concluding that we are bad listeners, we talk too much and that if we would do a better job of listening to women the world will be a better place. The fact that the Times chose to publish this piece on their editorial page is frightening. Not necessarily that the Times specifically agrees with her point of view but that at least the Times thought it was at least worthy of being fit to print.
I understand that everyone is entitled to have an opinion but if that opinion is to have any credibility – which would merit publication in a quality newspaper – it should be based on something factual or data driven. Calling out men as the only gender that needs to be better listeners is as bogus as labeling all women as man shamers. Frankly, we all need to be better listeners and follow Stephen Covey’s habit #5 “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.”
The non nuanced rhetoric by Dr. Probolus does little to bring a greater understanding of gender issues and how we can move forward to having a constructive dialogue on gender equality.