• Mankeeping

    Another assault on masculinity has emerged called “mankeeping.” According to Jesse Kahn, LCSW, CST “Mankeeping is a relatively new term for the often-invisible emotional, relational, and logistical labor that people do to maintain their male partner’s social and emotional lives.” The term was invented by developmental and social psychologist Angelica Ferrara, PhD, to describe the work women

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  • The Myth Of The Alpha Male

    There appears to be a distortion of the concept of the Alpha Male.  The use of the term was based on animal studies that looked at dominant behaviors among various species.  It was misused regarding wolves when research showed that wolves were organized by family rather than by a dominant male or female. Popular culture

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  • Can A Woman Write About Men?

    The immediate answer is, of course. Conversely a man can write about femininity. The issue arises when the author, either male or female, attempts to understand what it is to be a man or a woman. This subject attracted my attention in a recent article in the NY Times magazine section which discussed a 20-year-old

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  • The Warrior

    It appears that there is an increasing sentiment among some government officials along with the men who feel the antidote to men under siege is to evoke the ethos of the warrior.  The problem is which aspect of the warrior archetype are they endorsing?  As I have previously shared, The Warrior – takes action, confronts,

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  • Right Question Wrong Answer

    In a recent article about the notorious Tate brothers the writer indicated that the Tate’s disgusting and illegal exploitation of women is their response to the question, “Are men under attack?” Frankly, the readers of my blog know that I too believe that men and masculinity is under attack.  However, the Tates and their many

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  • Ramblings

    Men & Media Those of you who have been following my blogs know how angry I am about the way men are portrayed in television ads.  Men are depicted as screwing up and often need to be rescued by their female partners.  My guess is that advertisers think that this portrayal of men is appealing

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  • Walk Like A Man

    Pleased to announce the soon to be published memoir about my personal journey in defining my masculinity and how it emerged in my formative years. and helped me overcome adversity. This is the description that will appear on the online booksellers web sites. I‘m proud to be a man, and I embrace my masculinity—striving to

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  • Can Men Really Have It All

    The following is an excerpt from an article in the Guardian. “Can men really have it all? And to some extent we have succeeded, judging by a survey of 5,000 UK fathers published this week by the charity Working Families which found 75% say they genuinely want to share the parenting load equally with their partners. Except,

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  • Gender Neutral Revisited

    I was re-reading Harvey Mansfield’s book, Manliness, and was intrigued by his dichotomy between public masculinity and private masculinity. He equates public masculinity with what I have defined as gender equality – although for some reason he does not use the term gender equality. His definition of positive public masculinity parallels the feminist movements efforts

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  • Boy Crisis

    The front page of the NY Times Sunday Opinion section featured the following headline:  “Lonely, detached and isolated, today’s young men are adrift. We faced this problem a century ago. We Can Solve the Boy Crisis Again.” Written by published authors Robert Putnam (Bowling Alone) and Richard Reeves (Boys and Men) the article begins by

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