There is little disagreement that being resilient is an important quality for managing the vicissitudes we all experience over a lifetime.  Data from the University of North Carolina’s life-course research emphasizes that resilience is not an innate trait but a process derived from the interplay between individual agency and historical context. The research indicates that while modern

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The term warrior has drawn considerable attention during our current war with Iran. To remain unbiased, I will not attempt to discuss the merits of the war. Instead, I want to comment on what it means to be a warrior. As an archetype, the warrior can be expressed in the light or in the shadow. 

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A recent article about “Looksmaxxers” highlighted another example of the confusion young men are experiencing about connecting with women. Looksmaxxers are individuals—primarily young men—who participate in “looksmaxxing,” a subculture focused on maximizing physical attractiveness through various self-improvement techniques. While some aspects of the movement involve standard grooming and fitness, it is often criticized for its roots in incel

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Another assault on masculinity has emerged called “mankeeping.” According to Jesse Kahn, LCSW, CST “Mankeeping is a relatively new term for the often-invisible emotional, relational, and logistical labor that people do to maintain their male partner’s social and emotional lives.” The term was invented by developmental and social psychologist Angelica Ferrara, PhD, to describe the work women

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There appears to be a distortion of the concept of the Alpha Male.  The use of the term was based on animal studies that looked at dominant behaviors among various species.  It was misused regarding wolves when research showed that wolves were organized by family rather than by a dominant male or female. Popular culture

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The immediate answer is, of course. Conversely a man can write about femininity. The issue arises when the author, either male or female, attempts to understand what it is to be a man or a woman. This subject attracted my attention in a recent article in the NY Times magazine section which discussed a 20-year-old

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It appears that there is an increasing sentiment among some government officials along with the men who feel the antidote to men under siege is to evoke the ethos of the warrior.  The problem is which aspect of the warrior archetype are they endorsing?  As I have previously shared, The Warrior – takes action, confronts,

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In a recent article about the notorious Tate brothers the writer indicated that the Tate’s disgusting and illegal exploitation of women is their response to the question, “Are men under attack?” Frankly, the readers of my blog know that I too believe that men and masculinity is under attack.  However, the Tates and their many

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Men & Media Those of you who have been following my blogs know how angry I am about the way men are portrayed in television ads.  Men are depicted as screwing up and often need to be rescued by their female partners.  My guess is that advertisers think that this portrayal of men is appealing

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Pleased to announce the soon to be published memoir about my personal journey in defining my masculinity and how it emerged in my formative years. and helped me overcome adversity. This is the description that will appear on the online booksellers web sites. I‘m proud to be a man, and I embrace my masculinity—striving to

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