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Can Men Really Have It All
The following is an excerpt from an article in the Guardian. “Can men really have it all? And to some extent we have succeeded, judging by a survey of 5,000 UK fathers published this week by the charity Working Families which found 75% say they genuinely want to share the parenting load equally with their partners. Except,…
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Gender Neutral Revisited
I was re-reading Harvey Mansfield’s book, Manliness, and was intrigued by his dichotomy between public masculinity and private masculinity. He equates public masculinity with what I have defined as gender equality – although for some reason he does not use the term gender equality. His definition of positive public masculinity parallels the feminist movements efforts…
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Boy Crisis
The front page of the NY Times Sunday Opinion section featured the following headline: “Lonely, detached and isolated, today’s young men are adrift. We faced this problem a century ago. We Can Solve the Boy Crisis Again.” Written by published authors Robert Putnam (Bowling Alone) and Richard Reeves (Boys and Men) the article begins by…
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Eliminating The Stress of Decision Making
Many of us needlessly agonize over the decisions we make in our lives. We invest countless hours weighing our options, worrying about the outcomes and beating ourselves up if things did not go as expected. Myth: Decisions by their very nature are difficult and require lots of effort. Fact: We actually make hundreds of decisions…
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Men Pouri
I promised myself that I would not keep blogging about how men in advertisements are made to look inept and often need a female partner to fix or undo their stupidity. However, a recent commercial for candy has caused me to break my promise. Two grinning large men dressed in football gear are sitting next…
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Misguided Macho
It appears that some of our political and business leaders have come to the conclusion that men have become less “Macho” and need to demonstrate a retro type of toughness that they feel has been lost in our current culture. The problem is that they are reverting to the misguided macho trope that does not…
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Single Moms
“I’m not looking for a male role figure for my children – is that wrong?” The answer to this headline in a recent article in the British press is a resounding yes. I have blogged several times about the impact of being unfathered that needs to be repeated with Father’s Day fast approaching. It is…
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Disconnect
The news cycle is dominated by stories of bad behavior by men. The “Me -Too” movement has exposed countless examples of sexual abuse and harassment by men especially by men in powerful positions. It has galvanized women to become more involved in politics and to add new energy to gender equality issues – equal pay,…
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Rugged Individualism
I have come to the conclusion that a belief that is embodied in the American psyche that has harmed all of us, especially men, is the mythology of “rugged individualism.” Rugged individualism, in the context of U.S. history, is a philosophy emphasizing individual self-reliance, personal liberty, and the belief that individuals can succeed on their own…
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What About Men
What About Men is the title of a new book by a noted feminist Caitlin Moran who was interviewed in a recent Time Magazine Q&A about her book. My first reaction was, why do we need another book by a women discussing masculinity? I am not opposed to women writing about the broader issues of…
